Why Girls Don't Want to get Married

Wow I found this interesting article today in some forum and guess what........it rings a few bells in my own reasons...... My comments are in purple.....

Some common reason taken from internet:-

●After marry, I'm no more his lover. I don't wish to be cold treated.

●After marry, my position in his is far behind from his family, he won't have much care about me anymore

●Affter marry, every friend and relative only interested to know: "When will you give birth?", I don't want to give birth and don't wish to tell people: "We are working on it."

●After marry, I've don't want to have problem with my mother in law.

●After marry, our love nest will become home for our kids. Mother in law will visit sometimes, and I need to prepare a room for her

● After marry, my son and daughter become someone's grandchildren, I don't want someone to take care and teach them

●After marry, his mom become my mom, my mom is still my mom. I don't need to serve my mom, but I need to serve his mom. I only want one mom.

●After marry, I become the slave of his mom, being ordered around without expecting complains.

●After marry, we cannot go anywhere for vacation just as we like it. Going somewhere near, worry his mom asking why don't bring her along; going somewhere far, worry his mom will say don't waste so much money.

●After marry, house always has to be neat and tidy, to prepare for her majesty coming

●After marry, he may has affair outside. i don't wish to check his phone often, also don't want to check of his shirt got some special perfume

●After marry, I will become a maid. I don't like someone order me around, saying that I'm lazy, don't respect elder. I need to go for work, need to rest, I don't want to be slave in both working place and home

Well, I'm married but I don't want any kids and yes MIL's get in the way but challenges makes you stronger and ignorance is bliss.....Sometimes just being yourself is better than pleasing everyone. So if you have a naggy MIL, just ignore and do your own stuff.....and let her know you don't like to be ordered around....you will do stuff whenever you like. Marriage is a good thing when two people help each other out to settle problems.....you and your husband are one family so make that a wonderful family =)

Valentine's 2010

14.02.2010

It's Valentine's Day!!!! and also first day of Chinese New Year...After waking up from bed, my hubby and I went for breakfast and after that hubby took me to buy my valentine's day pressie!!! He wanted me to choose my present...hahah...and I choose a necklace instead of roses....since roses withers and u can't keep it after that, I'd rather have something for keeps =) Love you hubby dearest ♥

Welcoming Year 2010

Wow.....It's been ages since I've blog....goodness me!!! Life in 2009 hasn't been a bed of roses but well life goes on hopefully Year 2010 will be a better year for me in every aspect...Hmm....Every event seem to pass through wilth a blink of an eye....First up for Year 2010, was a planned holiday with hubby then a big arguement with hubby erupt, thank God for wisdom we continue with the planned holiday and made up.....then comes a house ^.^ So happen there was a soft-launch before our holiday so we made a booking. Thank God we can finally have a house of our own. Then comes Chinese New Year.....this year is going to be my first time giving out "angpow" Gosh makes me feel like an Aunty....hmmm...I shall just pass this role to my hubby...ekekekek....Then now I'm at work AGAIN.....Work seems to revolve around our lives so much that it takes up bout 3/4 of our lives without noticing it. Well this is because we need to work to have more money for ourselves and so we spend most of our lives working. Money seems to be like the air we breathe unless we are multi billionaires. We survive on money like our food.

Just a few days ago, I found out that one of my ex-boyfriend has finally found his sunshine after being single for like 2 years or so since we parted our own ways. Well I hope the best for you dear =) Hope that all will end well for the both of you....What remains are the memories you left.

I have not even come up with 2010 resolutions YET......will make some time for it...till then ADIOS!!!!

Movie turn Dinner Date

On the 29th of April 2009, Hubby and I had a double date for movie with our friend , another married couple for movie at Cineleisure. What turned out to be a movie date ended up as a dinner outing instead. My husband was working so by the time he got back, got the puppies cleaned up and we got ready was already about 7:45p.m. It was impossible to reach Cineleisure in time for the movie that starts at 8:00p.m. we thought we were going to be only 15 minutes late ended up to be 45 minutes instead. This was because my dearest husband missed a turn, so we took the next turn but we weren't familiar with that route to Cineleisure. So we made a U-turn and tried for the next till exit instead. We thought there was going to be a U-turn nearby somewhere, but instead we needed to take a really BIG U-turn. We had to go to Mont Kiara to turn back to Mutiara Damansara. GOSH!!! So we thought not to rush and just skip the movie. When we reached The Curve it was 8:45p.m. Missing out so much on the movie wasn't going to be good so we went to The Street at the The Curve to have dinner instead. Our couple friend was already in the cinema watching the movie but we were okay about the idea on skipping the movie. There were so many choices to choose from so we chose Bubba Gump Shrimp Co. since hubby and I hadn't tried it yet.

It is a nice place with nice interior and a little pricey food. While we were looking through the menu, the next table ordered this special ice-cream cake that I couldn't remember the name. It definitely looks absolutely yummylicious. Hubby and I looked at each other and we thought if we ordered it we definitely cannot finish it because we are having dinner unless plan to have that ice-cream cake as our dinner. Hmm...so next time. Food at Bubba Gump was good though it's a little on the pricey side but well their portions are big. Hubby and I had to share. But it was a good dinner!!!

Hubby's Birthday!!!

Last Friday, the 24th of April 2009, my husband, sister-in-law and I went to Tenji's Japanese Buffet to celebrate my husband's birthday. I tried booking Jogoya Japanese Buffet restaurant at Star Hill but the dinner slot was fully booked throughtout the week. So I opt for Tenji's Japanese Buffet Restaurant at Mont Kiara instead. Tenji's is pretty much similar to Jogoya. We had a sumptuous dinner. They had sashimi, sushi, fried food, desert bar, soupy dishes, etc. The tiramisu is fabulous! We didn't have time to take pics because we were so eager to eat. After dinner, we took a short stroll nearby to ease our bloated stomachs.

Our next agenda on the list was to head off to MOS for clubbing. It's been about almost 2 months since the last time and I've been itching to go there. The best part about this club is that it is smoke-free. This is heaven!!! For the first time in all my clubbing experinces, this was the best of all. I don't even stink after clubbing. But the weird part was that, Sunway Hotel had some dinner or prom function and those peeps head on to MOS after their function with coats and gowns. OMG!!! So weird having clubbers in gowns and coats. But anyways, all of us had fun. Will definitely go back to Tenji's and MOS for more!!!

http://www.tenji.com.my/home.html

Cravin' Ice-Cream!!!!

UGH!!!!! I suddenly have this sudden craving to eat ice-cream. Swensen's??? Yummylicious!!!! Their ice-creams are so mouth-watering...The last time there was last year. It's been LLLLOOOONNNGGGGG!!! Anyone up for Swensen's??? My usual craving satisfaction would be the Oreo McFlurry from McD's but not anymore since I only go to Swensen's once in a blue moon. Can't wait to go!!!

http://www.swensensicecream.com/

Movie Day

Sunday,29th of March 2009. I went out with dearest hubby to Mid Valley for dinner and movie. We left Subang Jaya at bout 7.30 p.m. to meet up with a friend, a couple for movie. Finally my hubby had time for movie! So tough to get him out for movie cause it's either he is too busy or by the time he is free, he wants to just laze around and catch up on some sleep. He wanted to watch this movie, that's why he was so enthusiastic about it.
When we arrived, we had Sushi King for dinner, then we head on to GSC to watch KNOWING. It's an action-thiller movie. Kinda eerie on some parts cause of the environment and sound effects. It's another one of those end of the world movies. But I like the ending. How the fire just swept over the whole earth, the effects were good. But I still can't buy the idea where aliens were angels. Just so weird. But it's a good watch.
This movie does remind me of the book of Revelation from the Bible.

Click this link to read the synopsis and view the trailer
http://knowing-themovie.com/

EARTH HOUR

Hey Guys!!!

It's Earth Hour Day!!! Support Earth Hour by switching OFF your lights from 8.30 pm. to 9.30 p.m.!!! Remember to switch OFF the LIGHTS!!! Help save mother nature. It's just ONE hour. So do your part and help mother nature. For more info, visit earthhour.org/malaysia.

YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!





REMEMBER TO SWITCH OFF YOUR LIGHTS ON SATURDAY, 28 MARCH 2009, 8.30 P.M. TO 9.30 P.M.

Travel Saga

This is going to be so outdated but oh well....

I'll be blogging on my previous travelling experiences at 4 places, namely:-

1. Bandung,Indonesia - September 2008

2. Pudong and Huangzhou, Shanghai - October 2008

3. Phuket Island, Thailand - November 2008

4. Jakarta, Indonesia - December 2008

5. Guangzhou, China - January 2009

I didn't really had the time to blog about it so yeah...gonna blog bout it soon =)

Marriage for me

To all my friends who has been wondering why on earth I decided to get married at such a young age of 22 when it was just the beginning of my youth and career. I have been with my husband for 4 years in courtship and we decided to bring our relationship to another level. We want the lifetime commitment to each other; to have a family. Many would think I am too young for marriage. But then, marriage knows no age. There is no right age for marriage. Most of the time, people set their age for marriage, so it differs from individual to individual. Maturity in life also plays an important role. I had already experience the little bits of enjoyment that youth has to offer but maybe I prefer a stable life. Still, fun does not end when you're married. It gets better having someone sharing all that fun with you. At 22, the outside world is not to be missed, but there is more to life than all those little fun. Marriage for my husband and I are more for companionship. We love being in each other's company, doing things together, up to the point where we decided that we just don't want to be separated. Our 4 years of courtship has brought us to know each other better, how we both grew in our relationship. And the learning process goes on until today even though we are married. There's a lot of challenges in life and relationships. It is how we resolve it that matters at the end of the day. If two people cannot resolve their issues it definitely takes more patience to work on it. Avoiding and running away from problems are not the best way, it will only come back to haunt you again when you're with someone new. And then are you going to runaway from it again? In courtship you can do that, but not marriage. Marriage takes more patience and courage and it's definitely not a bed of roses and things cannot be resolved over night, it takes time. If a partner only knows how to runaway from problems instead of facing it and settling it, then you had better look for a new partner.

To all my friends, I have been married for 6 months now and life was good and bad. But things get resolved so that's where the good part is. Marriage is not only about love. Being madly in love would not solve any problems. Most importantly is how you resolve and reconcile after an argument, quarrel or misunderstanding.

Fhai, I thank God that you are part of life. You were the answer to my prayer before I met you.

I'm Back!!!

I"m back to blogging. Finally after all the hustle and bustle of wedding preparations. Time flies so fast and now it feels like I woke up one morning and I'm married. To be happy or not it is actually a combination of both. Reason being, I miss my family members and friends alot and the only one person I have is my husband. Living with my husband in another town with no one close around sometimes is quite depressing. Even if I go back to my parents home on weekends, i don't have time to meet up with my close friends as I need to spend time with my family. I don't have enough time. Now I only meet my close friends once in say two to three months.

When things get stormy with my husband, and in the midst of anger, sadness, disappointment and hurt I have no one to talk to. So I figured out that though you may have a husband, you still cannot count on him to comfort you in the midst of the storm. In the end I'm still alone and there's no one who can pick me up but myself. My husband will never comprehend how it feels like to live with no friends and family around you except your in-laws unless I make him live with my family back at home. Sigh...

This is just the beginning of a long journey ahead of me. It has been only three months. I hope I can hang on for the many unpredictable years ahead of me. When only three months I feel like giving up at times. Or maybe I'll be numb in few years time just like what a friend said to me. If I had a choice to choose again, I don't know if I would choose the right road. Because in life there are many choices and when we decide on one we cannot turn back and marriage is one. "To have and to hold, for better or worst, til death do us part..."

Sekali Ini Saja

I would like to dedicate this song to the person who dedicated this song to me. There are a lot of "If Only's...." In such a short time you left very deep footprints in my heart which is undeniably one of the deepest. The reason I dedicated this song to you is because of the same reason you dedicated it to me. I will be missing you.

Glenn Fredly - Sekali Ini Saja

Bersamamu
kulewati lebih dari seribu malam
Bersamamu yang ku mau
namun kenyataan yang tak sejalan

Tuhan bila masih ku diberi kesempatan
Izinkan aku untuk mencintanya
Namun bila waktuku telah habis dengannya
Biar cinta hidup sekali ini saja

Tak sanggup bila harus jujur
Hidup tanpa hembusan nafasnya

Tuhan bila waktu dapat kuputar kembali
Sekali lagi untuk mencintanya
Namun bila waktuku telah habis dengannya
Biarkan cinta ini...
Hidup untuk sekali ini saja

...................................................................................................................................................

Takdir bukan milik kita,
Walaupun kita tidak bisa bersama,
Namun kau selalu dihatiku,
Akanku mengingatimu tuk selamanya.

Malaysia still Home

Finally I'm back. Home sweet home. Arrived on the 1st of February. It was such a good feeling. Eveything seemed so familiar. I went home and gave my mum a surprise and she was extremely happy. On that same day, she brought me shopping for my chinese new year clothes. Such a good feeling shopping in Malaysia. I could afford those beautiful clothes and shoes. Finally after all the hard work I get to pamper myself. I was practically indulging in all the luxuries Malaysia could offer. Only one thing wasn't as perfect; the weather. I have always liked cold weather and the four seasons. I'm going to miss that very much. I've been very busy since I touched down. So sorry darlings, with Chinese New Year around I could not avoid it. I am officially free now so yes let's go out and meet up. I miss you guys. Thanks for being patient!!! muaks!!! Love ya all!!!

Specially dedicated to Kelvin...

Kelvin Lam....Lamb Lamb sounds better....I miss you Lamb Lamb....I miss the 38 times and the college times we shared. Always aarguing with each other. Always getting at each other...and lots more...I know you miss me cos UK is so boring and without me around it's worst...Haha...Your life is just boring without me..ahahha...You have to admit that. Well I might have good news for you. I might continue my studies soon I guess maybe after next year but might be at a different location and we could meet uo if you are still in UK then. Anyway you have been a wonderful friend all these while and I really really miss you company and our "38" times, "yam-cha" times, movie times and more. Take care my dear friend. I miss you sssssooooooooo muchies!!! I'm fine someone broke my heart but I'm ok now. Thanks for caring....You were the one I run to when I have problems. But now you are so far!!!!! Anyway, just wanna tell you I miss you alot....Come back let me know ok...bye!!!

Kenangan Terindah

Something meaningful I found...

Aku yang lemah tanpamu
Aku yang rentan karena
Cinta yang tlah hilang darimu
Yang mampu menyanjungku

Selama mata terbuka
Sampai jantung tak berdetak
Selama itu pun
Aku mampu tuk mengenangmu

Darimu...
Kutemukan hidupku Bagiku...
Kau lah cinta sejati

Bila yang tertulis untukku
Adalah yang terbaik untukmu
Kan kujadikan kau kenangan
Yang terindah dalam hidupku
Namun takkan mudah bagiku
Meninggalkan jejak hidupku
Yang tlah terukir abadi
Sebagai kenangan yang terindah

I'm not heart broken anymore....

With reference to my previous post,"Someone I might lose or keep", today I have decided to let go of my dear friend. I am not going to be heart broken and saddened by our cold friendship anymore. Thanks to all my dear friends who has been there advising me and giving me moral support. I have thought about all the advises given and I am back to normal again. The happy Felicia all of you know. Sorry to Haric, Rush Darling, Hairul and Fhai that I have been so down these few days. I am back to my normal self now. To those people mentioned above and also Chew Seeng, thanks a lot for your advises. Most of you told me not to mull over a friendship that has turned cold and not negotiable. And he's not giving in either so I guess what you guys said was right. But I will still be his friend if he wants too.

Birthday at Astana

My 21st birthday was not a big party but it was a meaningful one. I spend it with my fiance and friends at Astana. I was very touched that my parents and my younger brother gave me very meaningful words. I miss them. I was so touched to have read messages in their cards and presents they bought. I could not hold back my tears. Though I have not had homesick here in Astana thus far, but my heart miss the warmth and company of each of my family members and friends.



There was a bigger surprise at hand on my birthday, my boyfriend proposed!!! It is a memorable birthday. I was speechless. With all the effort he put in to set up the ambience it was all done with his two hands and brains... It was lovely and romantic. A very beautiful sight. My heart melted. It was simple and romantic. He brought me in the living room with my eyes closed with lights turned off. Then he sat me down and ask me to open my eyes. When I opened my eyes, my heart just melted. This is very very romantic. I was speechless. Then he sang a song to me and ask me THE question. I took awhile to answer though cause I was too happy that no words could express that happiness I felt. And yes I agreed to marry him.

Someone I might lose or keep...

Four months with four seasons,
It started with Spring,
Went through Summer,
Then came Autumn,
And now Winter has taken its rightful place, in just two weeks,
Winter might be the longest...

I am saddened by the recent and sudden change that occured. But I somehow anticipated it because from my past experience, there are a minority that will not be able to handle rejections and still remain close friends.

It is either you lose a friend or you gain a friend. I know this traingle has been unfair to this person that I treasure and care a lot about. And I know it has hurt him many times because I cannot be with him. What I can offer is friendship not courtship and he knows it very well. He knew he will lose me one day, he was just waiting for the time. It breaks my heart to know that I will hurt him unintentionally and until the time comes I know he will be hurt also. Through whatever decisions or circumstances, I would end up hurting him. What am I to do? No matter what I do I would hurt him. Unless of cause I choose to be with him. But that would not be possible because I found my soulmate, I would not give him up for anything or anyone else. I am in a very difficult position. The least I want in my life is to hurt people I love, people who are close to me and people I care and treasure.

I cannot go on pretending I never knew him. I am not a pretender who can just pretend that I never knew him at all. I cannot. It's not my nature. And he thinks I can just erase him out of my life just like a blink of an eye, so easily and just forget him. Well, you do not know me . I am not a heartless and cruel person. I remember people who has shared part of my life. And these people who has shared in my life will always be remembered and treasured by yours truly.

I apologise for all the unintentional hurt I have caused you. But you knew my answer long before. From the bottom of my heart, I want to apologise and ask for your forgiveness for all those hurt I have caused whether intentionally or unintentionally. I never meant to hurt you in anyway. I have always had the best interest for you in mind and not to hurt you in whichever away.

My intentions were all sincere and I cared for you with much sincerity and love. Now that winter has arrived, I will respect each and every of your decisions. Of cause it breaks my heart to know our friendship has turned cold. But as I have said before, I will NEVER forget you. And that is the truth.

I will always be two steps behind you if ever you need someone,
I will always welcome you with open arms like how it was before,
I will give you a warm hug and a shoulder to cry on if you need one,
I will NEVER shut you out of my life UNLESS you shut me out of your life.


Last but not least, I will ALWAYS welcome you with open arms at any time.

3 Horrible Weeks

It's been 3 weeks of non-stop. Very sick and tired. During that period I guess evryone was depressed and demoralised. Not surprising. There's always a rainbow after the storm but this rainbow will not stay for long. The storm seems to be longer. Anyhow, I view it as a training grown for me to grow stronger.

Bad Times at Astana

Working in Astana is at most times; depressing recently. The only motivation I have is to gain experience here and nothing else. it is the only thing that benefits me here. Pay is little, work is a lot. It is no different from working your ass off. Much similar to what I call cheap labour. It seems more like the company is exploiting the labourers. No bonuses, or commissions, no working permit, expired visa, etc. What does that tell you? A company well established should not be like that furthermore this is international. This is more like illegal work than a well established international company. I am very upset with my salary simply because I have more responsibilities and skills than one of my colleague and I am getting the same pay. My colleague has very little knowledge about detailing, Photoshop, 3D max to name a few and that person does not really go to site as well and goes back early. Though that person is a degree student, I am gonna be frank; that person has no knowledge about interior designing and I do not know how that person got the degree. Even a diploma student is better than her. I'm not shy to say that I have better skills than that person though I am only a diploma holder. Of cause I am unsatisfied and furious.

Projects here some actually cost a lot of money but where does the money go too? Something worth 1 million USD. Where does the money go to? Sometimes I feel that I am no different from those Bangladesh workers in Malaysia. Working illegally with cheap pay. The difference is that I have a higher qualification and I am in the professional line. My mum did advise me on this matter In which she is right about the company exploiting the workers. Management here is horrible. Now my patience and tolerance level has reached its limits. I do not think I can tolerate working like a cow here anymore. I'm not gonna be a stupid cow.