Why Girls Don't Want to get Married

Wow I found this interesting article today in some forum and guess what........it rings a few bells in my own reasons...... My comments are in purple.....

Some common reason taken from internet:-

●After marry, I'm no more his lover. I don't wish to be cold treated.

●After marry, my position in his is far behind from his family, he won't have much care about me anymore

●Affter marry, every friend and relative only interested to know: "When will you give birth?", I don't want to give birth and don't wish to tell people: "We are working on it."

●After marry, I've don't want to have problem with my mother in law.

●After marry, our love nest will become home for our kids. Mother in law will visit sometimes, and I need to prepare a room for her

● After marry, my son and daughter become someone's grandchildren, I don't want someone to take care and teach them

●After marry, his mom become my mom, my mom is still my mom. I don't need to serve my mom, but I need to serve his mom. I only want one mom.

●After marry, I become the slave of his mom, being ordered around without expecting complains.

●After marry, we cannot go anywhere for vacation just as we like it. Going somewhere near, worry his mom asking why don't bring her along; going somewhere far, worry his mom will say don't waste so much money.

●After marry, house always has to be neat and tidy, to prepare for her majesty coming

●After marry, he may has affair outside. i don't wish to check his phone often, also don't want to check of his shirt got some special perfume

●After marry, I will become a maid. I don't like someone order me around, saying that I'm lazy, don't respect elder. I need to go for work, need to rest, I don't want to be slave in both working place and home

Well, I'm married but I don't want any kids and yes MIL's get in the way but challenges makes you stronger and ignorance is bliss.....Sometimes just being yourself is better than pleasing everyone. So if you have a naggy MIL, just ignore and do your own stuff.....and let her know you don't like to be ordered around....you will do stuff whenever you like. Marriage is a good thing when two people help each other out to settle problems.....you and your husband are one family so make that a wonderful family =)

Valentine's 2010

14.02.2010

It's Valentine's Day!!!! and also first day of Chinese New Year...After waking up from bed, my hubby and I went for breakfast and after that hubby took me to buy my valentine's day pressie!!! He wanted me to choose my present...hahah...and I choose a necklace instead of roses....since roses withers and u can't keep it after that, I'd rather have something for keeps =) Love you hubby dearest ♥

Movie Day

Sunday,29th of March 2009. I went out with dearest hubby to Mid Valley for dinner and movie. We left Subang Jaya at bout 7.30 p.m. to meet up with a friend, a couple for movie. Finally my hubby had time for movie! So tough to get him out for movie cause it's either he is too busy or by the time he is free, he wants to just laze around and catch up on some sleep. He wanted to watch this movie, that's why he was so enthusiastic about it.
When we arrived, we had Sushi King for dinner, then we head on to GSC to watch KNOWING. It's an action-thiller movie. Kinda eerie on some parts cause of the environment and sound effects. It's another one of those end of the world movies. But I like the ending. How the fire just swept over the whole earth, the effects were good. But I still can't buy the idea where aliens were angels. Just so weird. But it's a good watch.
This movie does remind me of the book of Revelation from the Bible.

Click this link to read the synopsis and view the trailer
http://knowing-themovie.com/

Marriage for me

To all my friends who has been wondering why on earth I decided to get married at such a young age of 22 when it was just the beginning of my youth and career. I have been with my husband for 4 years in courtship and we decided to bring our relationship to another level. We want the lifetime commitment to each other; to have a family. Many would think I am too young for marriage. But then, marriage knows no age. There is no right age for marriage. Most of the time, people set their age for marriage, so it differs from individual to individual. Maturity in life also plays an important role. I had already experience the little bits of enjoyment that youth has to offer but maybe I prefer a stable life. Still, fun does not end when you're married. It gets better having someone sharing all that fun with you. At 22, the outside world is not to be missed, but there is more to life than all those little fun. Marriage for my husband and I are more for companionship. We love being in each other's company, doing things together, up to the point where we decided that we just don't want to be separated. Our 4 years of courtship has brought us to know each other better, how we both grew in our relationship. And the learning process goes on until today even though we are married. There's a lot of challenges in life and relationships. It is how we resolve it that matters at the end of the day. If two people cannot resolve their issues it definitely takes more patience to work on it. Avoiding and running away from problems are not the best way, it will only come back to haunt you again when you're with someone new. And then are you going to runaway from it again? In courtship you can do that, but not marriage. Marriage takes more patience and courage and it's definitely not a bed of roses and things cannot be resolved over night, it takes time. If a partner only knows how to runaway from problems instead of facing it and settling it, then you had better look for a new partner.

To all my friends, I have been married for 6 months now and life was good and bad. But things get resolved so that's where the good part is. Marriage is not only about love. Being madly in love would not solve any problems. Most importantly is how you resolve and reconcile after an argument, quarrel or misunderstanding.

Fhai, I thank God that you are part of life. You were the answer to my prayer before I met you.

I'm Back!!!

I"m back to blogging. Finally after all the hustle and bustle of wedding preparations. Time flies so fast and now it feels like I woke up one morning and I'm married. To be happy or not it is actually a combination of both. Reason being, I miss my family members and friends alot and the only one person I have is my husband. Living with my husband in another town with no one close around sometimes is quite depressing. Even if I go back to my parents home on weekends, i don't have time to meet up with my close friends as I need to spend time with my family. I don't have enough time. Now I only meet my close friends once in say two to three months.

When things get stormy with my husband, and in the midst of anger, sadness, disappointment and hurt I have no one to talk to. So I figured out that though you may have a husband, you still cannot count on him to comfort you in the midst of the storm. In the end I'm still alone and there's no one who can pick me up but myself. My husband will never comprehend how it feels like to live with no friends and family around you except your in-laws unless I make him live with my family back at home. Sigh...

This is just the beginning of a long journey ahead of me. It has been only three months. I hope I can hang on for the many unpredictable years ahead of me. When only three months I feel like giving up at times. Or maybe I'll be numb in few years time just like what a friend said to me. If I had a choice to choose again, I don't know if I would choose the right road. Because in life there are many choices and when we decide on one we cannot turn back and marriage is one. "To have and to hold, for better or worst, til death do us part..."

Malaysia still Home

Finally I'm back. Home sweet home. Arrived on the 1st of February. It was such a good feeling. Eveything seemed so familiar. I went home and gave my mum a surprise and she was extremely happy. On that same day, she brought me shopping for my chinese new year clothes. Such a good feeling shopping in Malaysia. I could afford those beautiful clothes and shoes. Finally after all the hard work I get to pamper myself. I was practically indulging in all the luxuries Malaysia could offer. Only one thing wasn't as perfect; the weather. I have always liked cold weather and the four seasons. I'm going to miss that very much. I've been very busy since I touched down. So sorry darlings, with Chinese New Year around I could not avoid it. I am officially free now so yes let's go out and meet up. I miss you guys. Thanks for being patient!!! muaks!!! Love ya all!!!

I'm not heart broken anymore....

With reference to my previous post,"Someone I might lose or keep", today I have decided to let go of my dear friend. I am not going to be heart broken and saddened by our cold friendship anymore. Thanks to all my dear friends who has been there advising me and giving me moral support. I have thought about all the advises given and I am back to normal again. The happy Felicia all of you know. Sorry to Haric, Rush Darling, Hairul and Fhai that I have been so down these few days. I am back to my normal self now. To those people mentioned above and also Chew Seeng, thanks a lot for your advises. Most of you told me not to mull over a friendship that has turned cold and not negotiable. And he's not giving in either so I guess what you guys said was right. But I will still be his friend if he wants too.

Birthday at Astana

My 21st birthday was not a big party but it was a meaningful one. I spend it with my fiance and friends at Astana. I was very touched that my parents and my younger brother gave me very meaningful words. I miss them. I was so touched to have read messages in their cards and presents they bought. I could not hold back my tears. Though I have not had homesick here in Astana thus far, but my heart miss the warmth and company of each of my family members and friends.



There was a bigger surprise at hand on my birthday, my boyfriend proposed!!! It is a memorable birthday. I was speechless. With all the effort he put in to set up the ambience it was all done with his two hands and brains... It was lovely and romantic. A very beautiful sight. My heart melted. It was simple and romantic. He brought me in the living room with my eyes closed with lights turned off. Then he sat me down and ask me to open my eyes. When I opened my eyes, my heart just melted. This is very very romantic. I was speechless. Then he sang a song to me and ask me THE question. I took awhile to answer though cause I was too happy that no words could express that happiness I felt. And yes I agreed to marry him.

3 Horrible Weeks

It's been 3 weeks of non-stop. Very sick and tired. During that period I guess evryone was depressed and demoralised. Not surprising. There's always a rainbow after the storm but this rainbow will not stay for long. The storm seems to be longer. Anyhow, I view it as a training grown for me to grow stronger.