Marriage for me

To all my friends who has been wondering why on earth I decided to get married at such a young age of 22 when it was just the beginning of my youth and career. I have been with my husband for 4 years in courtship and we decided to bring our relationship to another level. We want the lifetime commitment to each other; to have a family. Many would think I am too young for marriage. But then, marriage knows no age. There is no right age for marriage. Most of the time, people set their age for marriage, so it differs from individual to individual. Maturity in life also plays an important role. I had already experience the little bits of enjoyment that youth has to offer but maybe I prefer a stable life. Still, fun does not end when you're married. It gets better having someone sharing all that fun with you. At 22, the outside world is not to be missed, but there is more to life than all those little fun. Marriage for my husband and I are more for companionship. We love being in each other's company, doing things together, up to the point where we decided that we just don't want to be separated. Our 4 years of courtship has brought us to know each other better, how we both grew in our relationship. And the learning process goes on until today even though we are married. There's a lot of challenges in life and relationships. It is how we resolve it that matters at the end of the day. If two people cannot resolve their issues it definitely takes more patience to work on it. Avoiding and running away from problems are not the best way, it will only come back to haunt you again when you're with someone new. And then are you going to runaway from it again? In courtship you can do that, but not marriage. Marriage takes more patience and courage and it's definitely not a bed of roses and things cannot be resolved over night, it takes time. If a partner only knows how to runaway from problems instead of facing it and settling it, then you had better look for a new partner.

To all my friends, I have been married for 6 months now and life was good and bad. But things get resolved so that's where the good part is. Marriage is not only about love. Being madly in love would not solve any problems. Most importantly is how you resolve and reconcile after an argument, quarrel or misunderstanding.

Fhai, I thank God that you are part of life. You were the answer to my prayer before I met you.